Relationship strategies consist of, or can be broken down into two components: relationships
and strategies. Let’s take a look at relationships first!
1/ Relationships
can only exist if there are two parties involved. There’s no such thing as a
“singular” relationship. There has to be at least two persons in the relationship. These two
persons have to have something in which both of them are in agreement with. Otherwise,
they would not bother to correspond / talk / share with each other. Whatever it is that they
are in agreement on, it’s entirely up to them for the relationship to work.
2/ Strategies
A course or courses of action designed to achieve a specific objective or purpose. Strategies
are very important. They are essential ingredients in one’s journey to success. No matter how
good or noble an objective might be, it would be very difficult, if not impossible to achieve
without strategies. Think of it this way. Without relationship strategies, it would be like
driving your car without even knowing where to go and why you are driving it in the first
place. Doesn’t make sense at all, does it?
Let’s focus our attention to relationship strategies then, specifically relationships between
couples who found love and decided to be together, to love each other, and to nourish and
nurture the love that binds them together.
One of the first things they should look into is to determine the purpose why they are
together. Each relationship strategy they formulate should adhere and point to the purpose
they established in the first place. Then, as they go along, they determine what to do and
what not do as they work together to achieve their purpose. It is wise to keep the objectives
simple and clear so that the strategies would be clearly defined as well.
It is pointless and inconsistent if the strategy does not point to the objective. If the strategy is
not followed, what was done and the result thereof will still be pointless and inconsistent.
Therefore, couples should make a conscious effort to carefully study what their objectives
must be as well as the relationship strategies that lead to their achievement.
Examples of relationship strategies are: To take time to look at the mirror together and look at
your partner, not yourself; during arguments, the couple can either sort it before they go to
sleep or right after they wake up when their minds are at its calmest state; make anniversaries
of special and intimate moments even if they seem tiny and simple; always remember to be
grateful for the little gestures of affection your partner does for you; learn what and what not
to do and say to make your partner mad; love your partner a little bit more than they love you,
so on and so forth.
Formulating relationship strategies comes easy if the couples are serious about what they are
doing and strongly believe that they are there for the long haul. If not, they would not find
purpose in formulating them. The thing to remember is to determine what the objectives are
and then formulate relationship strategies that will lead to their achievement.
